THE Number.

"No, that would be like buying a used car without even reading the odometer."

"The word odometer makes me think of some kind of smell testing device."

"Seriously, you want to have whole parts of your spouse's personality hidden from you? I say it's better just to know, it's better to be honest. I wouldn't want to practice deceit like that. Also, you get to know how they feel about the whole thing.. Like, what if they thought that sleeping with the entire athletic department of their state university wasn't really that big of a deal? Wouldn't you want to know about that?"

Which, I conceded, was a good point.

Still though, I'm not convinced. Like Chris, I'm not sure I'd want to know. But I realize that there is no rational reason for me not wanting to know. It's about my ego, primarily. Who the hell wants to be compared? No one. Unless you're #1. Then I want detailed comparisons, I want to know specifically how I succeed, by how much, and how much-much more often.

I figure that I'm in the 98th percentile of nearly everything. So, the more lovers a girl has had, the more that increases the probability that at least one guy was better than me.

I don't want to do the math. I don't even want to think about it.

Does that make me insecure? You bet it does, now tell me I'm the biggest stud you've ever had, and make me believe it.